The sun shines
Quietly rearranging the cold
Seamlessly interrupting the snow
Stabbing the doldrums with hope
Scattering fear and frozen postures
Into twirling dancing rays of anticipation.
Wednesday, November 13, 2013
Proposals Vs. Marriages
Today yet another YouTube proposal appeared on my Facebook feed, this one a half hour long. The site promoting it suggested that we should spend more time on weddings, months of preparation. I would suggest that the time spend on proposals and weddings falls in importance far behind the time spent on marriage itself.
Yesterday a woman was bemoaning that the most elaborate wedding she had ever witnessed lasted four months before the bride said her husband was too bossy. The family member telling the story lamented they had not done premarital counseling. Exactly.
If couples preparing for marriage actually prepared for their marriages instead of their proposals and weddings, they'd be grateful later. I feel bad for young men these days as these videos go viral, you can't just ask for her hand and give her a ring, you need a choreographer, back up singers and a video editor to perfect the moment.
So, men considering marriage...go ahead and make that proposal special, but go beyond that. Women, plan the wedding of your dreams, but don't leave it there. Both of you take the time to get some expert advice on your relationship, so that your marriage outlasts your YouTube fame.
Yesterday a woman was bemoaning that the most elaborate wedding she had ever witnessed lasted four months before the bride said her husband was too bossy. The family member telling the story lamented they had not done premarital counseling. Exactly.
If couples preparing for marriage actually prepared for their marriages instead of their proposals and weddings, they'd be grateful later. I feel bad for young men these days as these videos go viral, you can't just ask for her hand and give her a ring, you need a choreographer, back up singers and a video editor to perfect the moment.
So, men considering marriage...go ahead and make that proposal special, but go beyond that. Women, plan the wedding of your dreams, but don't leave it there. Both of you take the time to get some expert advice on your relationship, so that your marriage outlasts your YouTube fame.
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